LOVE
I've been studying the psychology of love for the past decades because I wanted to be a better boyfriend and I wanted to understand why women were counterintuitive like when you first meet a girl they say they want you text immediately but what their actions respond to and are attracted to is when he texts back in 3 days based on psychology. Or how as love grows, passion dies. These are resources I've saved over the years.
The secret to desire in a long-term relationship | Esther Perel | TED
Why passion doesn't last. Why does good sex fade even for people who continue to love each other? Why does good intimacy doesn't guarantee good sex? Can we want what we already have? Why is the forbidden so erotic? People should read Esther Perel's book before getting married. One of my favorite TED talks of all time.


The Science of Love | John Gottman | TEDxVeniceBeach
World-renowned relationship expert John Gottman set forth to understand why relationships don’t work, but for that he needed to first understand relationships scientifically. Gottman then measured the behavior, perception and physiology of couples over time to understand how love works. With that he was able to create equations for love and discern the mathematical dynamics of love. His science was able to predict with a 90% accuracy whether relationships would last or not. Finally, his studies conclude that the magic of love requires calm and commitment, which in the end makes the magic of great love a bit less of a mystery.
John Gottman speaks about how his scientific research has now created a new understanding of all love relationships (heterosexual and same-sex), across the entire life span. He describes the new LOVE EQUATIONS, and the magic trio of calm, trust, and commitment. For more, visit The Gottman Institute at https://www.gottman.com/. World-renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction, Dr. John Gottman has conducted 40 years of breakthrough research with thousands of couples. He is the author of over 200 published academic articles and author or co-author of more than 40 books, including The New York Times bestseller The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.
Dr. Gottman’s media appearances include Good Morning America, Today, CBS Morning News, and Oprah, as well articles in The New York Times, Redbook, Glamour, Woman’s Day, People, Self, and Psychology Today. Co-founder of The Gottman Institute with his wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, John is a Professor Emeritus of Psychology at the University of Washington where he founded ”The Love Lab" at which much of his research on couples interactions was conducted. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community.

The Divorce Lawyer: People who divorce more likely to divorce again
I was just interested to hear the perspective of a Lawyer who deals with marriages like I didn't know 70% of women file for a divorce. People see him to divorce because of cheating but it really started with the small things like forgetting to get their partner their favorite granola bar and it snowballs from there.
